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2020 was the year we will all remember as being when normalcy was ripped out from under our feet. I, like so many other Americans, found myself without a job when the company I worked with for 9 years laid me off. It wasn’t completely unexpected. I worked in the hospitality industry, and as we saw occupancy drop and fewer guests coming through the door, I knew it was only a matter of time before I lost my job. Trying to find something new after 9 years, when so many people were out of work, was not an easy task…


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It doesn’t seem right that you have been gone longer than I had you. So much has changed in twenty years. I wonder if you would even recognize the world we live in now.

Gone is the quiet life you lived. The world now is ruled by technology. People are glued to their cell phones and computers, and it’s hard for most of us to keep up with how fast things are changing. I’m not sure you would have liked any of this very much.

There were so many things I didn’t tell you, and I wonder every day if…


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When someone you know is diagnosed with cancer, it is very common to want to jump in and help. This is especially true if you have known the person for a long time or if you have had an experience with cancer in your family. After all, cancer is so prevalent these days that most of us know someone who has personally dealt with the disease. Our first reaction is to figure out what we can do to help. …


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I am single.

A spinster.

An old maid.

A future cat lady without a cat.

I’m about as single as single can be.

At 37 years old I should probably be more concerned about this; however, I actually enjoy being single. If you had asked me 10 years ago, I would have had a very different response. All of my friends were getting married and the thought of being single was terrifying. I watched as they got married one-by-one, started their families, bought big beautiful houses, and talked about the joys of married life and raising children.

And to be…


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Since my cancer diagnosis, I have learned a lot about life in general. The important things. The not so important things. Things that used to take up such large amounts of my life now seem so insignificant in the grand scheme of things. It’s funny to think about how much time we spend worrying about things that don’t matter.

I am very thankful to have almost two years in remission from my cancer. While my life will never be the same, I am not altogether angry about my experience. …


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I have been overweight for most of my life. The weight piled on somewhere around 5 years old after a bought with rheumatic fever, and I was never a normal weight again. Childhood was a living hell as I became the focus for every kid who wanted to be a bully. I still don’t know how I survived most days.

To make matters worse, my family life was no better. My parents were poor and in bad health. We never had enough money, and they struggled to pay the bills. We often depended on family and friends to survive. There…

Mary Ellen Quigley

Writer, YouTuber, Ovarian Cancer Survivor. Lover of good books, iced coffee & Jesus. Indiana girl. Find me online via my Linktree https://linktr.ee/maryquigley

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